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Expectations
"The Development of Realistic
Expectations Pre-Adoption: Myth or Actuality?"
"I Don't Want to Deal with Birth Parent: A Preadoptive Expectation"
"Maybe When I'm 25, I'll be Grateful"
"My Spouse or Partner Wants to Adopt:The Dragee vs. Dragger Syndrome"
"Psychological “Fit”: A Place Where Parents,
Brothers, Sisters and the Adoptee Must Come Together"
"Why Love is Not Enough"
The Brain
"Consequences vs. Reactions: Parent 'Deerly'”
"Implicit Memories: The Roots of Today’s Behavioral Challenges"
Neurofeedback
"Neurofeedback: Balancing Brains Children
Impacted by Early Traumatic Experiences"
"Posttraumatic Stress Disorder:
Thinking about the Adoptee’s Trauma"
The Impact of Trauma on Child Development
“Act Your Age: The Vineland Adaptive Behavioral Scales"
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He or She is So Smart: The Many Facets of Intellectual Development"
“How Full is Your Bucket?: Reciprocity and the Traumatized Adoptee"
"I’d Like to Trust You, But Can I?:
Extending Trust to your Adopted Son or Daughter"
“I’m Not Lazy!: The Development of Initiative in Traumatized Adoptees"
"Neglect: There is No Such Thing as a Little”
“Sorry: Building Your Adoptee’s Moral Development"
"Speech and Language Development in Adoptees"
"What's for Dinner?: Time, Energy and Priorities"
Pre Adoption Issues
"Adolescents Need Adoptive Families Too!"
"Adopting Sibling Groups: Is the Youngest of the Group the Least Traumatized?"
"Before You Go: The 'Top Ten' Tips for Internationally Adopting Families"
"Deliberate Toddler Adoption"
"Finding a Pediatrician for Your Adopted Child"
"Promoting Sexual Safety in Adoptive Families"
"While Families Wait: Ongoing Adoption
Education for Prospective Adoptive Families"
Parental Self-Care/Parenting
"Adopting a Child with a History of
Trauma: Impact on Parents’ Self-Image"
"Am I the 'Right' Mom for this Child?"
"Ending the Cycle of Blaming Adoptive Parents:
The Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) Study"
"I Am a Terrible Parent!: Not!
Absolutely, Not! Parenting the Traumatized Adoptee"
"Progress: Look Back Rather Than Ahead"
"Sleep on It: Time, Energy and Priorities"
"The Parallel Healing Process: Preventing “Button Pushing”, Promoting Peace"
"This Holiday Season, I Wish My Friends and
Family Would...Notes From Adoptive Parents"
"Why Won’t You Believe Me?: Splitting in the Adoptive Home"
"You are a Good Parent!:
Areas of Mastery Must be Recognized and Enhanced"
Facilitating Attachment
"5 Tips to Help Adoptive Families Have Fun in Summer"
"50 Wonderful Songs About Love, Family and Adoption"
"Does Your Child Really Play?
Finding Your Traumatized Adoptees' Playful Side"
"Does Your Child Really Play?
Finding Your Traumatized Adoptees' Playful Side Part 2"
"Ensuring the Attachment of Newly Arrived Infants"
"Having Fun in Adoptive Families: Not an Oxymoron!"
"Nurture: The Ring that Holds the Keys"
"Nurture and the Sexually Abused or Aggressive Adoptee"
"Psychological “Fit”: A Place Where Parents,
Brothers, Sisters and the Adoptee Must Come Together"
"The Eyes Have It: Learning to Look at Others Enhances Self-Esteem"
"Theraplay: Enhancing Attachment, Building Trust, Having Fun"
"We are Family: The Importance of Claiming to
Enhance Attachment in Adoptive Families"
“You are the Mom: Helping Your Child Join Your Family"
Managing Challenging Behaviors - Part 1
"Affection is Wonderful: Will the Behaviors Ever Stop"
"Another Crazy Whopper: Understanding and Dealing with Lying"
"Anything We Can't Find, He Stole:
The Why and What to do About Stealing in Adoptive Families"
"Ask Not Why?, But What?"
"As Mother’s Day Approaches: The Role of Triggers in Adoptive Families"
"Becoming a Verbal Ensemble:
Coping with Mumbling, Questions, Chatter and More..."
"Getting Full On Parents Instead Of Food"
"Managing Your Adoptees Meltdowns
in Public and at Home: Just in Time for the Holidays"
"Oh the Behaviors: Developing Value Competency in Adoptive Families"
"One to Five: A Continuum of Healing the Adoptee"
Managing Challenging Behaviors - Part 2
"Parenting and Healing the Aggressive Adopted Child"
"Parenting and Healing the Sexually Acting Out Adoptee"
"Progress and Dieting: The Two Have Much in Common"
"Seeing the Forest Through the Trees: What to Pick?"
"Shhh! Quite Parenting Zone Ahead-A Less Talk,
More Action Approach to Reducing Unwelcome Behaviors"
"Stinky Business: Pee and Poop Issues in Adoptive Families"
"Take a Time Out From Time Out:
Connecting with Your Adopted Son or Daughter"
"The Art of Praising Your Adopted Son or Daughter"
"Think, Think, Think!: Teaching Kids to Think for Themselves"
"Throw Away the Stickers!: A Perspective on Reward Systems"
Adolescent Adoptees
"Delayed Launching: Adopted Adolescents and the Not so Empty Nest"
"Teen Sexuality Within a History of Sexual Abuse"
"Your Teen's Brain: Fabulous Resources to
Understand What's Going on in the Adolescent Head!"
Talking to Kids About Adoption
"7 Ways to Give Your Child a History"
"Affirming the Reality of the Hurt Adoptee"
"I Think! I Act! Transforming the Thoughts
of the Traumatized Adoptee is Essential"
Adoption Professionals
"It's the Same, Only Different"
"Single Parent Adopters: Wonderful Families for Kids"
"Moving: Through the Eyes of the Child"
"Their Past: Photos, Video, Audio Tape and More"
"What is All This Alphabet Soup:
Understanding Children's Mental Health Diagnoses"
"Womb Mates: When Sibling Rights and Parent-Child Attachment Clash"
Transcultural and Transracial Adoption Issues
"From Adult Adoptees to Transcultural Adoptive Families:
Listening to the Messages and Taking Action!"
"Transcultural Adoptees: The Development of Cultural Identity"
"Transcultural and Transracial Adoptees:
The Development of Racial and Cultural Identity"
Grief and Loss
"Let's Make a Deal: Bargaining as an Expression of Grief"
"Traumaversaries: Lessoning the Impact of Adopted Children's Annual Triggers"
Adoption and School Issues
"Brothers and Sisters Need Responses!:
School and Adoption - Answering Adoption Related Questions"
"Homework or Monopoly? Time, Energy and Priorities"
"Public School, Homeschool..How Should my Adopted Child be Educated?"
Disruption and Dissolution of Adoptions
"A Summary of a Study of Eastern European Adoption Dissolutions"
"Rosie is Blooming: Adoptees Thriving After Adoption Dissolution"
Fathers and Adoption
"Adoptive Dads, Timing and the Adoptee Affected by Trauma"
"As Father's Day Approaches: Strengthening the Role of Adoptive Dads"
Typically Developing Children: Helping Brothers and Sisters Cope
"A Sibling Thanksgiving: One Mom's Tradition"
"An In-Depth Conversation with Younger,
Typical Kids: 'I Don't Have to Fix Her' and More..."
"Making Dates with the Kids in the Family at the
Time of Adoption: One Habit You Will Want to Keep!"
"This is Not the Brother or Sister I Expected!
The Need to Prepare the Typical Children"
"Typical Children: Afloat on a Sea of Grief"
"Where are the Support Groups for Typically Developing Children"
"Yes, There are Positives for the Typical Kids!"
See the Book "
Welcoming a New
Brother or Sister Through Adoption
"
by Arleta James, LPCC